You thought you knew your life. You thought you knew him. One day, everything was normal—or so you thought...
Then came the discovery of his betrayal that leaves you replaying every memory, second guessing yourself, and him. You’re thinking...
- “How did I miss the signs?"
- "Why wasn’t I enough?"
- "What else was he hiding?"
- "How do I trust myself or others?"
- “Was our relationship even real?"
- “WTF do I do now…?”
Healing is exhausting and frustrating.
It's like taking one step forward and five steps back.
You have rage one moment picturing his lies, sadness the next constantly replaying the betrayal in your mind, questioning him and yourself, and comparing yourself to other women
Then come the triggers and memories that bring it all flooding back without warning. One moment you feel good, then the next you want to break down into tears
Then there’s the self-blame that somehow if you were "better" this wouldn’t have happened...
But what if life didn't have to be like this?
What is this becomes the start of a new chapter that positively changes the rest of your life?
A life where you go from feeling powerless to f*cking powerful
Right now you're thinking...
“It’s my fault. If I had been better or more attractive, this wouldn’t have happened.”
“I’ll never feel like myself again. This is just how life will be now.”
“How didn’t I see this coming? I’ll never trust anyone again–not even myself.”
“Triggers, memories, pain, and flashbacks will hurt me forever.”
The thoughts that you're feeling right now aren't the problem.
The problem is...
- You're reading books and listening to podcasts about betrayal and p*rn, hoping that will help you "make sense" of why he did it. It won't. And those don't teach you how to heal YOUR pain
- You're not doing anything to regulate your damn nervous system. That is why you're feeling anxious, overthinking, obsessing over the past, replaying the betrayal in your mind, second guess yourself, etc.
- You're only doing traditional talk therapy, but you can't think or talk your way out of trauma. If you could, you'd be better by now. You also need to learn somatic and energetic practices because trauma lives in our body, not just our brain
- Your hoping "time heals all wounds" so you're not investing in your healing journey. When in reality, time just numbs you.
THAT is why this course is the missing puzzle piece to your healing journey
It teaches you the daily healing tools that books, podcasts, support groups, and talk therapy can't give you
This course isn’t about “getting over it.”
It’s about rebuilding your life so you don’t even want the version of you that tolerated that relationship.
In this course, you'll...
- Finally stop blaming yourself for his betrayal—you’ll no longer lie awake wondering “what’s wrong with me?” or obsessing over the other women, because you’ll know deep in your bones that his actions were about him, not your worth
- Have a healing plan you can actually follow—no more Googling at 2am or getting stuck in self-help overload. You’ll have daily tools, practices, and mindset shifts that you know how to use on the hard days, not just the good ones
- Learn to love yourself so much that you no longer tolerate disrespect- You’re not going to give someone a second chance after they lie. You’re not going to make up excuses for his disrespect or blame it on his “childhood trauma” because you know that’s just self-betrayal. You’re not going to be impressed by the bare minimum because you love yourself so damn much you aren’t desperate for validation from a man
- Feel more emotionally stable in your daily life—less spiraling, less overwhelm, no more crying in the shower or pretending you're okay when you’re not. You’ll be able to handle triggers and hard days without falling apart
- Trust your gut and know how to spot red flags early—no more ignoring your intuition or second-guessing your decisions
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Stop shrinking, settling, or playing small—you’ll go after that job, trip, or move you’ve been thinking of, and start making decisions from a place of power and confidence instead of fear
Hey, I'm Mandy!
Let's get this straight: I don’t help women heal betrayal because I read it in a textbook.
I help women because it almost killed me.
I was living with a man who was secretly addicted to p*rn, cheating on me with countless women—including hotel rooms with a literal p*rnstar—and gaslighting me the entire time.
I found out everything at once. I left and I broke.
I couldn't understand how someone could be so "perfect", yet lie to you about another life they were living
I researched obsessively, went to therapy, joined support groups, and listened to every betrayal podcast I could find, but I still felt like I was "stuck"
Healing happened once I stopped just consuming information and actually started applying real trauma healing tools—the stuff no one teaches you when your life explodes
I rebuilt my life and I'm so f*cking thankful I left because I love who I became. And now I teach women how to do the same from my 400+ hours of training certifications
This course is the exact roadmap I wish I had when I was in survival mode.
No fluffy affirmations. No “just let it go” advice. It's tools that work when your nervous system is fried, your heart is shattered, and you're scared shitless about the future.
I’ve been featured in Fight The New Drug, Beyond Compulsion Academy, Voyage LA Magazine, Shoutout Los Angeles, Unhooked: Breaking Free From Porn Addiction, Sun and Moon Sober Living, The Skin I’m In, Her Voice Matters, and Paul Lavergne’s YouTube Podcast.
Here's how these tools actually changed my life:
- I left my 9-5 job that made me feel dead inside and built two businesses from scratch
- I became certified in trauma-informed relationship coaching, women's empowerment coaching, meditation, and trauma-informed somatic breathwork so I could heal my trauma in my body—not just vent about my pain
- I moved out of the city where he and I lived, packed my bags, and chased my dream of becoming a digital nomad
- I booked solo flights, landed in countries I’d never been, and built a new life without needing a man beside me
- I stopped dating and focused on becoming someone I respected and trusted
- I stopped comparing my body to every girl on Instagram and started treating my body with love and respect
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My therapist literally said, “I don’t think you need me anymore.” That’s how far I came
Right now, you probably feel stuck.
You’re anxious, second-guessing everything, and the betrayal is still playing on a loop in your head.
You don’t trust him—and honestly, you don’t really trust yourself either.
You’re exhausted from pretending you’re okay.
But here’s what healing actually looks like on the other side:
You enjoy your day without obsessing over him—his name doesn’t ruin your mood, and you don’t spiral every time you see a couple on Instagram. You sip your coffee, laugh with your friends, and actually feel present again
You sleep through the night and wake up without dread—no more morning anxiety, checking your phone for crumbs, or rehearsing past fights in your head before you’ve even had breakfast
You show up differently in your friendships and family—you stop hiding how hurt you are, stop feeling ashamed of your situation, and start connecting with people who actually get it
You look in the mirror and mean it when you say, “I’ve got me”—you don’t need outside validation to feel attractive, wanted, or worthy. You like who you see—finally
You feel genuinely excited about your future—you’re dreaming again. Maybe it’s travel, launching a creative project, a work promotion, being single without missing a partner. Whatever it is, you’re no longer just surviving—you’re building something new
Sneak peak at what's included...
- 50+ videos with me where I guide you through everything, every step of the way
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30+ nervous system regulation techniques designed to use anytime to help ease triggers, anxiety, stress, overwhelm, rumination, fear, etc.
- 20+ worksheets for self-reflection, journaling, mindset reframes, triggers, and creating a step-by-step game plan
- 14 visualization and meditation techniques to use anytime to manifest your best life, dream partner, ease overwhelm and stress, and provide deeper healing
- A private shame-free, judgment free, community of women who are taking the course where I’ll answer any questions
- Vision board workshop to anchor into your dreams daily
- A monthly Zoom support group call for women who are taking the course so you can make new friends along the way with girls who understand you! Alumni can participate for life!
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A resource guide with recommended books, podcasts, websites, etc.!
- Lifetime access and free access to future updates!
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Continue scrolling below to see the exact modules and information
Allow me to introduce you to...
Betrayal Survival Guide: Transforming Pain Into Power™
Here's the course breakdown:
Step 1: What the F*ck Just Happened?!
You’ll finally get answers—not gaslighting, not vague therapy talk.
In this module, you’ll:
- Learn exactly how betrayal creates trauma that impacts your brain and body so you no longer feel like you’re “crazy” or “overreacting”
- Understand why you can’t stop obsessing over what happened, why it’s hard to eat/sleep/focus, and why your emotions feel out of control
- Stop blaming yourself and start seeing the manipulation and patterns clearly—so you stop internalizing his behavior as a reflection of your worth and you never allow it to happen again
- Get a massive sense of relief from realizing: this is a trauma response—not a personality flaw
Tangible result: You’ll finally make sense of what happened so instead of spinning in shame and confusion - you’ll move forward, feeling validated, and in control of your life.
Step 2: Create Your Daily Healing Plan
No more waking up every day wondering “WTF do I do now?”
In this module, you’ll:
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Set up a real support system (not just venting to friends who don’t get it) but one that will help you actually move forward instead of talking about the issue over and over
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Create a daily rhythm of healing practices—so you’re not just consuming info, you’re actually teaching your body how to heal
- Learn what works for you and your body so you can start to feel calm and at peace again
- Start to feel a sense of structure and safety again, even if your life still feels messy
Tangible result: You’ll ditch the overwhelming feeling of “what am I doing”, “how do I move on” because you have a daily routine that works for you and HEALS you
Step 3: How to Actually Feel Better—Not Just Fake It
If you’re not feeling like yourself, constantly thinking about the betrayal, or you’re snapping at people (or shutting down completely), this is why.
In this module, you’ll:
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Learn what’s actually happening in your body when you’re anxious, overwhelmed, or emotionally flooded
- Stop feeling like you’re “too sensitive” or “overreacting” and understand what’s really behind the spirals, shutdowns, and obsessive thoughts so you can learn how to minimize it
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Use simple, body-based techniques to calm your system in the moment—so you can think clearly, feel safer, and stop living in survival mode
- Start making decisions (like leaving, setting boundaries, or going no-contact) from a place of clarity, not panic
- Feel grounded in your body again instead of constantly being on edge or exhausted
Tangible result: You’ll stop feeling hijacked by anxiety, rage, or fear because you’re actually taking back YOUR LIFE
Step 4: What to Do With All the Sh*t Feelings You’re Feeling
You’ve been holding it all in. Or maybe you’ve been falling apart in private and pretending you’re fine. Either way, this is where that stops.
In this module, you’ll:
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Learn how to process painful emotions like anger, grief, shame, and heartbreak without getting stuck in them or numbing them because you’re afraid to feel them
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Understand what your emotions are trying to tell you—so you stop second-guessing yourself and start trusting your inner voice again
- Practice gentle emotional release tools so you don’t feel like a pressure cooker on the verge of releasing at any moment
Tangible result: You’ll learn the difference between feeling your feelings vs. spiraling in them—and how to move through them faster and more safely
Step 5: Heal Your Past So It Stops Controlling Your Future
You’re not just healing from him. You’re healing from everything that taught you to tolerate less than you deserve.
In this module, you’ll:
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Look at the beliefs you picked up growing up—like “I’m too much,” “I’m not enough,” or “Love means pain”—and finally let them go
- Understand how your early relationships shaped what you accepted in this one (hello, attachment wounds), and how to stop repeating those patterns
- Heal the young girl in you that learned to shrink, over-give, or stay quiet just to keep the peace—and finally start showing up as the real you, unapologetically
Tangible result: You’ll stop seeing yourself as the problem and start seeing yourself as powerful. You’ll understand why you stayed, but you’ll no longer feel stuck in the past so you can create a healthier future that feels safe
Step 6: The Comeback: Rebuilding Confidence, Self-Love, and Self-Trust
This isn’t about “getting over it.” This is where you take everything you’ve been through and turn it into fuel. Not in a toxic positivity way—but in a you finally feel like yourself again kind of way.
In this module, you’ll:
- Rebuild real self-trust so you stop second-guessing every decision or needing constant validation
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Learn how to trust your gut (not your trauma) and feel confident setting boundaries that actually protect your peace
- Shift from feeling broken to feeling like a f*cking force—without needing anyone else’s approval
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Start designing a life that feels aligned with you—your values, your joy, your standards
- Stop waiting for a relationship to “complete” you and become the kind of woman who doesn’t settle ever again
Step 7: Design a Life That’s So Damn Good You Don’t Miss Him
How do you move on from the past? You create a life better than the one you had with him.
In this module, you’ll:
- Get clear on what you actually want moving forward–the life, the job, the relationship–without filtering it through guilt, fear, or your ex’s voice in your head
- Connect with your “future self” and map out how she thinks, feels, and lives—so you can start embodying her now
- Create a step-by-step vision (not just a dream board) for your relationships, career, lifestyle, and self-worth
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Learn how to attract aligned love without self-abandoning or performing to be chosen
Tangible result: You’ll walk away with a crystal-clear plan for what’s next—and the confidence to actually go after it. Whether it’s a new city, career move, deeper friendships, or next-level dating standards—you’ll finally believe you’re capable and worthy of it all.
Bonus Module: Should I Stay… or Finally F*cking Go?
Still in the relationship and stuck in limbo? This module is for you.
This isn’t about rushing you—it’s about helping you make a clear, confident choice rooted in truth, not fear or fantasy.
In this bonus module, you’ll:
- Get brutally honest about whether trust can actually be rebuilt—or if you’re clinging to potential
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Tap into your intuition (not trauma responses) so you can hear what your gut is really saying
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Identify your core values, non-negotiables, and where you’ve been betraying yourself to keep the peace
- Assess whether he’s shown real accountability—or just performed it to keep you around
You’ll stop obsessing over “should I stay?” and finally know what’s right for you. No more guessing. No more waiting for clarity to magically appear.
Step 9: Detaching For Real: No Contact, No Crumbs, No BS
This is where you stop checking his Instagram, unfollow his friends that didn’t support you, and start choosing your peace of mind
In this final module, you’ll:
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Learn how to actually detach from your ex emotionally and energetically, not just block his number
- Confidently go no contact (or low contact if kids are involved) without feeling guilty or second-guessing it
- Support your brain’s healing after trauma bonding, so you're not tempted to “just check in” or go back to crumbs
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Learn how to date again—if you want to—from a place of wholeness, not loneliness
- Spot red flags early, trust yourself around men, and hold boundaries without feeling like you’re “too much”
You’ll stop obsessing over what he’s doing and start caring more about how you feel.
Step 10: Celebrate the Sh*t Out of Yourself
You’ve come a long way. Now it’s time to own it—and lock in the changes you’ve made
In this final module, you’ll:
- Look back and realize you're not crying over texts that never came, stalking his socials, or questioning your worth anymore
- Recognize how much more emotionally stable you feel—less spiraling, less overthinking, and more present in your day-to-day life
- Notice that you’re sleeping better, eating better, saying “no” without guilt, and actually enjoying being alone
- Reflect on how your standards have changed: you don’t entertain bare-minimum energy, and you trust yourself to walk away early
- See how your friendships, career, or even your relationship with your body have shifted now that you’re not carrying constant shame
After this program:
You’ll feel different in your body, your mind, your habits, and your relationships. You won’t be triggered or overwhelmed by the same things. You’ll feel calmer. More confident. Think clearer. Feel more positive. You’ll realize—maybe for the first time—that you love who you’re becoming.
See What Others Are Saying...
- “I struggled for years through betrayal trauma feeling too ashamed to even talk to a therapist. I recently completed three months of coaching with Mandy and it was so transformative and healing for me. I truly feel like a different person and I can’t thank her enough for coaching me through this journey.”
- "I am so grateful for you! I have been looking for someone as great as you for a while now. You're such an amazing human being and I have so much respect - You have given me hope again. My session with her was ABSOLUTELY AMAZING! I felt heard for once and a sense of relief in knowing I'm not alone."
- "Mandy you are awesome and I love your work. Thank you SO much. I recommend her to anyone who is struggling with a cheating spouse. Watching others have s*x is cheating and she's not afraid to say that. She isn't going to tip toe around the facts out of fear in no way shape or form & this is exactly why you should book a session with her! I respect her in so many ways. She's not here to gaslight or invalidate your experience so book a session ASAP! I am glad I found Mandy!"
- “Mandy creates a space that allows you to explore and process emotions. She is very skilled at creating safety for her clients. Mandy has great tools to help you slow down and unpack complex scenarios. I highly recommend Mandy!”
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“The session I had with Mandy was so helpful for me. She gave me tips and techniques to help me to calm my emotions and think clearly when I get upset. She has such a calming encouraging presence that I immediately felt comfortable sharing with her.”
This course is for you if you..
- Are ready to heal from their cheating, emotional infidelity, and/or p*rn use
- Feel stuck in the pain and confusion and want a clear, actionable path to healing
- Are ready to reclaim your power, take control of your life, and be f*cking happy again
- Want practical tools to manage triggers, ease anxiety, and stop the cycle of overthinking and self-blame
This course is NOT for you if you...
- Are experiencing thoughts of self-harm or suicidal ideation. This is not a substitute for therapy. Please seek other professional resources if you are experiencing this, or contact your countries suicide lifeline (988 for America). The world needs you, you matter, and you are so loved!
FAQs:
Email me at [email protected] or DM me on TikTok or Instagram @WTFDoIDoNowCoaching with any questions
- Is this course refundable?
- Since this is a digital product and you receive all the lessons and materials upfront, there are no refunds available. However, I’m confident that if you commit to the course and resources, you’ll find it helpful!
- How long will it take me to complete the course?
- This course is entirely self-paced, so you can go through it as quickly or slowly as you need. You could dive in and complete it in a few weeks, but I recommend taking your time to process and apply everything. There’s no right or wrong way to do this—it’s all about what works best for you!
- What are your certifications?
- 1. Women's Empowerment Life Coach:
- This is from an internationally accredited program that combines coaching, women's health, and embodiment, accredited by the International Coaching Federation (ICF)—the 'Ivy League of the Coaching Industry.' It's specifically designed to focus on the physical, spiritual, mental, and emotional aspects of healing for women.
- 2. Advanced Relationship Trauma Coach:
- In my Advanced Relationship Trauma Coaching, I learned around trauma to accelerate your healing process. This program equipped me to understand how trauma, especially from complex relationships, affects your body, mind, and brain, and how to overcome it.
- 3. Trauma-Informed Somatic Breathwork Facilitator:
- As a Trauma-Informed Somatic Breathwork Facilitator, I bring a neuroscience-rooted approach to healing. Using somatic-based breathwork and bodywork, I help you safely identify and release the undigested emotions and physical tension stored in your body because trauma lives in our body, not just our mind.
- 4. Meditation & Mindfulness Teacher:
- Meditation is scientifically proven to rewire the brain, reducing stress, anxiety, and trauma while enhancing feelings of happiness, compassion, and gratitude.
- This practice is incredibly effective in calming the mind, improving sleep, and increasing concentration, making it a powerful tool for healing from betrayal trauma
- What if I’m afraid this won’t work for me?
- That fear is valid, and it’s okay to feel unsure. But this course isn’t about one-size-fits-all solutions—it’s about giving you the tools and support to create your own path to healing.
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You’ll learn techniques that you can adapt to your unique needs and challenges. And because the course is built on a trauma-informed approach, it’s designed to meet you where you are, whether you’re just starting to heal or have been on this journey for a while